Perfectly manicured with impeccable makeup. Pristine, alluring and beautiful. The Goddess & Mistresses you thirsted after, as you steal a glance, only to retract your gaze in a mix of fear, admiration, and unworthiness of a second glimpse.
Perhaps, through our curated social posts, our Dior scents, our Louboutins, and exquisitely executed play sessions, you seat us on your pedestals, all famed and polished. After all, that's what we want you to do, to fantasize and to muse.
But what the passing outsider does not see is the day before. I liken my professional practice akin to elegant swans in a pond. The occasional onlooker only sees our elegance and unsullied feathers, gracefully gliding across the mid-noon lake; but not the frantic paddling under the surface.
This immaculate facade masks our hard work, exhaustion and anxieties. After all, sexy photos & videos on social media are much more easily engaged with and consumed as content as compared to a detailed account of our hard work behind the scenes which made everything happen.
But perhaps, this is what you submissives want - pornographic-fuelled impressions of femdom - sexy powerful women decked in latex and boots, pegging desperate submissive boys into orgasmic bliss. Performative, sexualised and objectified. A small fraction of our profession and dedication as a whole.
The Day Before
Before you hit like on your dominatrix's content, to send a tip on Onlyfans or AVNstars in admiration and enjoyment of her content - instead, pay tribute to their day before. To honour their hard work and determination that brought them to their day of success. Convocation balls, promotions, birthdays...we were raised to celebrate milestones and achievements; yet it is the hard work before our success that actually mattered.
Subs only see dominatrixes while we are 'in-role' and end up only knowing that facet which exists. What subs don't see are the long nights of pre-session planning, retying a single column to get it right, doing the laundry after a day of sessions, the fifth take of a video shoot, mentoring new dominatrixes, managing dom-drop and empathy fatigue.
Hard work, dedication and determination precedes our success. That is the day before you don't see.
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